Relate Social Structure™ – Trust

Relate Social Structure^™ – Trust.

May I teach you about trust? It is one of the most valuable commodities in relationships.

I want to address this very current issue. I realize that in my newsletter, it is time in the pattern for me to tell you a little more about the Efficient Power Pair. Instead, with this email, I am shifting from writing just for the newsletter to using my blog to develop newsletters that are more useful. Look for the information about the Efficient Power Pair next week in the newsletter.

Today, I am going to spend some time working on something I learned this week.

I started to learn this lesson a few weeks ago. At a convention, I was asked to say, in one short sentence, what I am trying to teach. I begged for help from my higher power and then opened my mouth. As I spoke each word, a next word or phrase to say formed in my mind. About half of you understand that experience. Here is my answer:

The Subconscious

“I teach about how the structure of our subconscious forms and shapes how we relate to others and to our reality.”

The words gave meaning to the life I have lived for over 20 years. I knew that I had learned how to relate to just about anybody. I knew that I could earn just about anyone’s trust. What I am struggling with is finding a way to share that knowledge.

Then, this week, three events happened that changed everything.

Three events teaching trust

I went last night to visit a neighbor who has read “Relate” and wanted to attend a class on the Relate System. She was hesitant because, she said, “I know my behavior has changed, but I just don’t know that I could share with anyone how it has changed.” “My daughter is so happy now!” (I remember how painfully miserable she had been only weeks before.) 

May I share my answer for her?

I said, “Please understand that I am not teaching you something you can only do knowingly. Trust your subconscious!

It is the job of your subconscious to remember. I teach because, by teaching, I wake up your subconscious. Your behavior shifts immediately. Your subconscious begins to work the way it is supposed to work. The biggest blessing from learning Relate Social Structure™ happens when you get out of the way and stop questioning your subconscious choices.”

Then, this morning, I was told two stories by an opinion writer in the local paper. One of the stories I already knew. The other, I was not as aware of as I should have been. I am so grateful for his reminder. 

Story Reminder

First, I was reminded that we must learn to trust ourselves before we can trust others. Elder and Sister Bednar taught that kind of trust to students at BYU Idaho. Elder & Sister Bednar taught them to trust themselves to be able to listen to a higher level of inspiration than their words.

What I do, in “Relate”, is help you discover and then maintain that ability to trust. I strengthen your trust of what you can learn when you stop listening only to words; angry words, defaming words and hate filled words of persecution, faith-filled words, words of affection, words.

If you trust enough to hear what is really being said, from their higher self to your higher self, you will have questions answered that the words of the speaker do not answer. In fact, the speaker may not even be capable of answering.

Trust Yourself

Judge Gorsuch, on the other hand, pointed out the consequence of learning to trust yourself. He instructed us that the only governance we should trust is the voice of the people and God

(…whatever higher power God is for you: because “higher power” implies a being capable of being perfect. No matter what you think perfect is, it does not include satanic rituals and abuse. Perfect usually means the ability to love perfectly. It is my experience that Perfect Love magnifies the good in both the receiver and the giver).

I think most wise parents teach their children that before you can trust anyone else, you must first trust yourself. And that trust starts from a place of reference that is the most honest. Trust is nurtured by finding those who give us an honest perspective. Where do we find that?

Overarching

Overarching this week’s experience is the article I found at the beginning of the week.

from the BYU Business School called “Impostor Syndrome is more common than you think; Study finds best way to cope with it,” By Paul Swenson, September 23, 2019. 

In this article are pointers to where we find honest perspective.

Point Learned

One point made by the article is that while the impostor syndrome involves a head in the sand assessment of self,“…one particular method stood out above the rest [for curbing this line of thinking]: seeking social support from those outside their academic program. (Emphasis added)

When we feel that we can’t trust ourselves, it is time to get up from the computer screen and find those outside our profession, our little world, our tiny neighborhood. Find gathering places full of people who think differently than you do and ask for them to help you get perspective. Remove the limits of the people you will learn from, the experiences you will invest in, the places you will explore.

I would love to hear feedback and input from you if you have read the book, “Relate”. We can do it by Zoom or email. You may not see how you are using Relate Social Structure. But others can tell that you are. And they will tell you they are most appreciative of the changes you have made. If you would like to share your observations and help others learn, please reply to this email. 

See you next week! 

Thanks,

Lynette