Conflict brings richness to Love

Conflict is valuable

Conflict brings richness to Love. I have come to value all opposition. Opposition creates conflict. And, for me, conflict is a blessing because conflict brings richness to love.

Conflict we resolve is valuable.

To resolve conflict, we must reconcile our differences. Reconcile means we sit again with those who were our enemies. It does not mean that we suppress ourselves or our enemies.

Contention is conflict without resolution. It becomes a burden that weighs us down. It pulls energy from us.

Suppressed conflict, like suppressed emotions, are dangerous as a source of dis-ease. It traps energy inside of us.

Conflict Resolution is the act of solving or ending a problem. And it allows us to use our energy to create.

Resolution can also mean – to bring a picture into focus. Instead of removing opposition to create tranquility, it focuses us on what we value. That gives life texture and meaning.

Conflict Resolution brings focus

Conflict resolution brings focus to our identity – our agency. Resolution celebrates our uniqueness.

Each of our eyes sees the world from two angles. Have you ever studied the different alignment of one eye from the other? If you have, you know one of your eyes allows you oriented your body safely. The other eye gives you an off-center image.

It is so amazing how our brains use those two different perspectives. Our brains resolve our eyes two views. The effect of the two different views is that you can see a three-dimensional image of your world.

Through conflict resolution, we reconcile our experiences with others. When we wrap our heads around others’ opposition, we bring focus to what really matters. Opposition of friends, family and foes, is essential for a rich, fulfilling and satisfying life.

Resolution allows us to mature

The healthy resolution of conflict allows us to mature. It opens our eyes, ears and minds to alternatives. The more alternatives we comprehend, the better our final creation or choice will be.

Have you ever thought about what happens when conflict resolves? …does it remove conflict? NO! It brings reconciliation. Reconciliation allows us to focus on what provides the best value. Each part of the conflict has value, or it would not be in conflict.

If we value all parts of a conflict, we get better answers. Each opposing viewpoint given expression, meaning and purpose to something of value. The more valuable the parts, the more viable the creation. Creating with opposition creates an ” upwardly mobile spiral” of real growth and creation.

And is that not what love is?

Love is living with Conflict Resolution

The greatest love is for one to lay down their life for another. Palms 139 teaches us that God sees light in all things. When we find value in all levels of light, we can resolve conflict.

What kind of questions do you have about love?

What is Love?

I have found that love is not seduction. That is a painful lesson repeated through relationships that have gone south. What have you learned that love is for you?

After all the definitions, I have found that love is valuing differences. I have learned that when we find we are working along beside of those who are welcoming of our efforts, we find love.

Do you ever find that the people you enjoy working with the most are the ones whose opposition you value? I have often found that opposition we value makes work interesting and fun?

So, what do we do when we experience conflict among people we enjoy working with? In my experience, we often shift from protecting our selves to seeking understanding. If we can make that shift, we have amazing experiences as whole human beings.

When communication shifts from contention to listening, we become open and understanding. When we appreciate conflict for the benefits it brings, we show maturity.

Have you ever considered the role of meekness in resolving conflict? Let’s consider why we are reconciling and resolving our conflict. By considering why, we may be able to appreciate meekness.

Conflict brings the best solution forward

Tranquility limits our life experiences to two dimensions. What are the two dimensions? Do you think they may be our viewpoint and our possible choices?

Limited to our own viewpoint, are we not limiting our choices?

When open to opposing opinions, viewpoints and realities, we have a 3-dimensional experience. In 3-dimensions, our physical, emotional, mental, financial and interpersonal experiences are richer. Nothing can replace the wealth of 3-dimensional experiences. Conflict brings richness to love by giving us a 3rd dimensional view of our lives.

Can you imagine trying to spend the rest of your life living with just one eye?

Avoiding conflict removes the richness of life.

In much the same way we use two eyes, conflict between our view of life, and the view of others, adds depth dimension. Conflict resolution allows us to examine that added dimension. Conflict brings richness to Love. That 3rd dimension is of great worth – bringing life, and love, a richness nothing else can.