What is Love? To Begin, ask the question

Over the next few weeks, I will explore what love is. I am beginning this journey because as I developed the Relate Social Structure, I began to understand love in a very different way than I ever had before. It changed my perspective on marriage, family, friendship and community.

Because of this change of perspective, I will explore how Love is not an emotion. It is, instead a mediator between the Yin and Yang of emotion.

In the Relate Social Structure, there are three law systems which balance each other. In order to have a stable society, those systems must be equally strong. We need to rely upon all three, but at no one point in our lives can we obey all three sets of laws. There will always be one that is used as a pivot. The other two of the systems must be respected, allowing them to be well anchored in obedience so their movement is stable and steady.

This balance of obedience and disobedience seem contradictory. The only way it makes sense is to explain the principle I have been taught that there must be opposition in all things. How can we violate a law and yet have balance? How can the violation of law be a good thing? Who mediates that violation and ensures all parties are treated fairly?

I have wanted to talk about this because in my experience, I have discovered that love is very much the mediator between the law systems of the Relate Social Structure. I would like to begin this series of articles on what is love by discussing what love is not. I would like to then build on what I do know about love in the context of the Relate Social Structure in upcoming articles.

It has been my experience that when you ask a man why he loves his wife, one of the first 5 reasons will include a statement something like this; I love my wife because she knows everything bad about me and still, she loves me.

Yet, when asked, “What is Love?” The normal definitions list all kinds of emotional descriptions which move and shape our lives. If love is unconditional and unchanging, through all the torrid and the good, why do we define it with words which define emotion, passion, attraction, mood, and feeling.

Is Love a feeling or is it an action?

I have wondered at this confusion.

I will continue to explore this subject in coming weeks. Stay tuned! Be sure to follow my blog so you will get notices when the next article is posted.

May your day be blessed.